An old woman found herself dying of cancer. Her heartbroken husband came to sit by her bedside, deep in his own grief. Having shared a lifetime of beautiful days together, it seemed impossible that he would continue his life’s journey without her. Although he desired to be strong for her sake, he found he was unable to control his emotions and began to cry.
Focusing on the tears streaming down his face, she gently said to him, “Now honey, please don’t take on so. While I’ve been sick, I’ve had lots of time to think and know one sure thing. A moment of happiness is a miraculous gift, and we’ve shared a lot of happiness. Focus on those beautiful memories and find your smile when you do.”
Happiness doesn’t come wrapped in brightly colored packages as a gift given to us by others. Happiness comes when we uncover the gifts that lie within us and begin to use them to please and bless others. We each possess our own unique gifts. It’s our life’s work to discover what they are and put them to good use.
Happiness comes when we least expect it. It might lighten an ordinary morning while weeding the garden with a friend, or come on a common evening as dusk ushers in the night. It’s life way of smiling at us.
Happiness flows from within. It’s found in the moments of life we label as “quality” rather than “quantity”. It rises up in life’s greatest tragedies when we choose to smile at what we know to be good and lasting, rather than to cry at what temporarily hurt us. As the pain of loss changes over the years, tears morph into smiles as we share happy stories about those we love and carry close in our hearts.
Happiness also comes as we find ways to help others.
In the words of one very smart man,
“This is the true joy in life, being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one. Be a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.
I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community and as long as I live, it is my privilege to do for it what I can.
I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work, the more I live.
I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no brief candle to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I’ve got hold of for the moment and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.”
― George Bernard Shaw
For heaven’s sake, don’t choose to be a feverish, selfish little cold of ailments and grievances. Be the splendid torch. Choose happiness.
The only person who can truly make you happy is yourself. You simply need to decide.
Whatever you do today, remember, the heart is the happiest when it beats for others. Choose happiness, one day at a time.
More tomorrow.