In this the crazy world of today, the Art of Gentleness has been lost. In my Daily Devotional Journal, I found a nice acrostic poem on the subject.
G — Gracious and good
E — Engaging, willing to listen
N — Nice to others, regardless of who they are
T — Taking the time to move at another’s pace
L — Loving
E — Endearing by act of kindness and goodwill
An interesting fact popped up on a few days ago on the Internet. Ah, what could we ever do without the internet, right? It’s been 52 years since 1970. Now, I would guess a lot of my readers could remember that like yesterday. I know I can. It was the year that I met VST and we became friends. That spring, I was a freshman in high school, he a sophomore. Heck, I could probably tell you what dresses hung in my closet as girls weren’t allowed to wear pants to school. It was so simple in those days. There were boys. There were girls. No confusion on that.
There were 52 years between 1918 and 1970. People (again, men and women) took pride in acting like a Gentleman or a Lady in 1918. People were civil to one another. Sunday was a day to rest and visit your church, whatever denomination that was. It was a day to enjoy visits with family and friends. I wasn’t there, but my grandparents shared stories. Life wasn’t all a bowl of cherries for them, either, being immigrants from the Volga area of Russia. They faced prejudice like others in our great country. They were too busy building a life to sit and worry about it.
In 1918, meals were cooked at home and every mom of that era would be considered a fantastic cook today. If her kids were living, she did alright in the kitchen. People raised their own food or at least knew bacon came from a pig and milk came from a cow. Not too many years after that, my dad’s family would take the family cow with them on camping trips because she needed to be milked and the family needed to drink the milk. She was an important part of their family and treated as well as any other cow in the neighborhood.
Back in 1918, people knew the neighbors for miles around. They knew who possessed what skills when they were needed. They attended each other’s funerals when people had just three days bury their dead. They celebrated new life in the community when a baby was born. They helped each other raise the barns on new farms, and raise the roof at weddings. Most people knew how to dance and loved the opportunity to do so.
In 52 years, the 1970 arrived.
In the early 1970’s, my family got our first nice television. Big and boxy, it was housed in a very large cabinet made of solid wood. You could still get things like that in the ’70’s. There were hours in which there was nothing to watch on television because the TV stations, (three in our town), went to sleep. Every morning at 6 AM, they woke up to the raising of our flag and the National Anthem.
News was just that. News. And not news from other parts of the country. News from our own town that pertained to us. Walter Cronkite was respected, whether he should have been or not. He was everyone’s friendly Uncle that had a calming voice as he delivered the nightly news. Everyone shut the trap and listened at our house. No extra yapping until the news was over. Maybe that’s where the troubles began.
In the 70’s, I remember buying my first tape recorder for $100.00. I had saved awhile, needing it for college. It took 6 “C” cell batteries and recorded words on tapes. My parents and I sat at the kitchen table trying to figure out the push buttons and how the thing worked. It was an amazing machine, almost the size of a small shoe box.
“But why can’t you just listen and take notes? $100.00?? So much money.”
I hardly heard them, while thinking about taping an entire lecture from Mr. Deacon in Biology. How much more time I would have to check out the guys in class! I used that tape recorder throughout my four years in college.
Fifty-two years later, today everyone has the phone. If you misspeak on a topic, there are plenty of people to fact check your information. You can find support for any position or belief on the internet. Need a recipe? Don’t worry about calling a neighbor. Just Google it. Need to find out opinions on the quality of a business in town? Google it. Plenty of strangers will lift up or tear down a business’s reputation with words on a screen. Five Stars to the best.
In the age of technology, garage doors stay closed. People hide from the virus. Connections are lost. Our society has lost something very special. Respect for others. Gentleness. Kindness. Sincerity. Tolerance. Work Ethic. God.
In the 70’s, I remember my Grammie and Grandpa S shaking their heads about society then. It must have been the end of the world coming, because the evil ways were shocking. No one in 1918 would have ever behaved like they did in 1970. Thank goodness they didn’t need to live in 2022. It would have blown their minds, for sure. Heck, it blows mine at this point.
Not all is lost. In a dusty little wide spot along the road in the high desert of Northwestern Nevada, I know a place. People still hug when you walk into a little church on Main Street. Neighbors wave to each other and stop to talk on their daily walks. Friends meet at the local Walmart. Weekends hold car shows and rodeo events. People fly the American flag and pray for our great country. Police and firemen are our heroes. Families keep their history alive and remind each other to be kind and gentle.
I know it exists. I live there.
More tomorrow.